It seems that we had a situation or two to arise in the school district recently, and I would like your feedback and thoughts on the situations.

Situation One:

Recently, a high school, varsity team was out of town for a tournament.  They were away for multiple days.  The students remained under the supervision of their coach (school).  Typically, a parent will have to sign out their child if they are going to leave the coach’s (school’s) supervision.  In this situation, students were not signed out by their parents.  The team was given verbal permission by their coach to spend a half day and night with their parents.  At some point, one of the players went out with some college kids, got drunk and passed out to the point that he/she could not be revived.  The student was rushed to the hospital where it was determined he/she had alcohol poisoning.  Needless to say, this created a lot of chaos and finger pointing.  In this situation, who is to blame or to be held liable for what occurred?

Is it the parents, the coach (school), the student, all of the above or other?  Does it matter that the player was not signed out by the parents?  Is the responsibility that of the parents if the student was at some point in their care whether signed out or not?  What do you think?  How does your student’s high school handle a situation like this?  What should happen to all involved?

Situation Two:

At this same tournament, a player was hazed by some other players, (although I am sure the district would refer to this situation as ‘horse play’ based on similar past situations).  The players were ‘messing with’ the private part(s) of another player while one of them videotaped.  The coach walked in on them.  Instead of benching the players, the coach made them run.  Nothing happened to the coach or players other than what I have described here.  Was this situation handled correctly, fairly or justly based on school policy or in your opinion?  Have you ever had an experience like this? If so, how was it handled?  How should a situation like this be handled?  Should the coach be punished?  Should the students have been benched?  What do you think?

Keep in mind, both situations occurred on the same trip with the same team (in case that changes your opinion one way or another).



3 thoughts on “High School Player Drunk on School Trip and Players Hazing Another Player

  1. I would love to know where you get your info from. In situation 1, did the drunk student have parents with him/her? At what point are the parents liable if they agreed with the coach on the release? In situation 2, how do you know that the proper channels weren’t followed before punishment was given? It is obvious that you are seeking an answer for an angry parent. You can’t please everyone, but the bottom line is that you can’t always blame a teacher or coach for the inadequacy or misinformed parents. Since your blog is about family values, then you need to start there!!

    • You should not presume to know what my opinion on this subject is, because I most certainly never gave one.

      Just a few minutes ago, I did post my thoughts on my FB page. Here they are.

      Situation One: Honestly, as a parent, I would have been horrified, disappointed and completely embarrassed by my son’s actions. The school’s punishment would have been the least of his worries. Since I do not have teenagers yet, it is hard for me to know what the normal protocols are for these school trips. I don’t know how it works when parents are on trips. Personally, my role as parent always supersedes the role or authority of the school or a coach. I would have to have more details before having a definitive opinion on this one. Parents have to take responsibility, but parents and educators/coaches have to work together on these trips. Better communication and possibly additional chaperones should be considered. The legal responsibility of the district on these trips has to always be a consideration and policies followed. If not, district could be sued.

      Situation Two: This situation reminds me of the movie, The Breakfast Club, and what Emilio did that landed him in detention. Obviously, these things are more known now bc of social media, and that makes it even more important for us to address these issues and correct them accordingly. Boys will be boys, but not all boys or all people consider this horse play. We cannot downplay the severity of their actions when things like this arise. We must do better to teach them what is right and what is appropriate (parents and educators/coaches). We have to be better role models for these kids, demand more from the students and never look divided as adults when situations arise.

      From the comments, it appears that there may be a breakdown between some of the parents and players and the coach. This needs to be addressed or things like this situation will continue to come up and cause more issues.

      Ultimately, shows like Jackass, Jersey Shore, the Kardashians, Dating Naked and the like show kids today that crazy antics and nonsense are not only acceptable but profitable. They don’t know boundaries anymore, because society is teaching them that there are none. Anything goes!! Kids are the responsibility of their parents, but we have to have some teamwork between parents and other adults that play an integral role in their lives.

  2. You said it right…..teamwork. Sorry that I did not see your FB post as I do not have an account for the exact reason you described above. As a high school and college athlete, I certainly know what goes on in the locker room and on the road. Social media has been a catalyst to highlight these events for both the good and the bad. Teamwork between parents and teachers/coaches is definitely the takeaway here. Thanks for your response.

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